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🌻 Sunday Motivation Moment 🌻 August Series: It’s All About the Kids! Yesterday we celebrated my beautiful Mom’s birthday. She raised TEN children, and every single one of us carries her lessons in our hearts. This month, I want to share the wisdom she lived by—the foundation she laid that still shapes how I parent and how I love. This week’s focus: It Starts with the Basics. 1️⃣ Structure and Discipline – Children thrive when they know what to expect. Boundaries and routines help them feel secure while learning self-control and responsibility. 2️⃣ Guidance and Support – Our kids need us to be their compass, offering wisdom, direction, and encouragement every step of the way. 3️⃣ Nurturing and Unconditional Love – Love that is steady and unwavering builds confidence, courage, and a deep sense of belonging. Because of Mom, I know that when we give our children structure, guidance, and love, we give them a foundation that lasts a lifetime. 💛 This week, let’s get back to the basics—because the best parenting lessons never go out of style. #SundayMotivationMoment #ItsAllAboutTheKids #ParentingBasics #MomsWisdom

Những gia đình có nhiều con cái xuất sắc (super-achievers/the hyper successful) đã làm gì để nuôi dạy chúng thành công như vậy? (part 2 of The New York Times series) The New York Times - What to Read - How to raise super-achievers? Thật ra, chưa có nghiên cứu nào đưa ra được câu trả lời chính xác cho câu hỏi này. Nhưng có một vài bullet points rất đáng chú ý: 😃Đầu tiên, ‘bố mẹ trực thăng’ đang cản trở con mình bằng cách cần mẫn loại bỏ hết các chướng ngại vật và thử thách chúng gặp phải (helicopter parents are doing their children a disservice by assiduously removing obstacles and challenges). Khi trẻ đối mặt với một vấn đề, sự can thiệp của bố mẹ khiến chúng mất động lực (when children confront a problem, parental intervention is demotivating). Thay vào đó, bố mẹ nên nhấn mạnh vào ‘sự tháo vát và khả năng tự lo lắng cho bản thân’ (parents should emphasize “resourcefulness and self-sufficiency”). 😊Bài học thứ hai là bố mẹ của những người rất thành công thường tránh đưa ra những lời khen ngợi quá … mùi mẫn và cảm xúc (A second takeaway is that the parents of the hyper-successful tend to avoid effusive praise). Tất nhiên, cách tiếp cận này có thể khiến trẻ không bao giờ cảm thấy mình ‘đủ’, lúc nào cũng có cảm giác không thỏa mãn, và muốn đạt được nhiều thứ hơn nữa (this withholding approach may drive children to soar, but it can also lead to a complex of never resting, feeling perpetually unfulfilled, always having to accomplish more). 😘Có một điều rất thú vị là những anh chị em thành công thường rất ủng hộ (to be supportive), giúp đỡ và dọn đường cho nhau (to encourage, aid and pave the way for their siblings), mặc dù họ không ngừng cạnh tranh (they relentlessly compete). Có một ví dụ về một gia đình người nhập cư ở Mỹ (từ Mexico): người anh cả học rất giỏi (to excel academically) và là người đầu tiên trong nhà học đại học - anh đã dẫn đường cho những người em của mình đến rất nhiều cơ hội giáo dục và xã hội (he helped guided his siblings into a variety of educational and social opportunities). Những người anh em ruột thúc đẩy lẫn nhau, cung cấp sự hậu thuẫn (logistical support), sự kết nối (connections) và sự cố vấn (counsel), cùng với ‘lòng trung thành không phải bàn cãi’ (unquestionable loyalty) 😚Những gia đình không khá giả nhưng có con cái xuất sắc đều có một điểm chung: bố mẹ cực kì cố gắng và sẵn sàng làm tất cả mọi thứ (to go to great lengths) để cho con mình cơ hội tiếp xúc với âm nhạc, nhà hát, viện bảo tàng, thư viện, và quan trọng nhất, là NHỮNG NGƯỜI DẪN ĐƯỜNG (mentors). Ví dụ: một nhà sản xuất các chương trình nghệ thuật trên tv nhưng không có nhiều tiền (of modest means) đã đưa con mình đến xem các buổi khai mạc ở một nhà hát kịch nổi tiếng. Không có tiền mua vé, họ ngồi ngoài nhà hát để ‘ngấm’ bầu không khí, và lắng nghe buổi biểu diễn qua radio. Họ xếp hàng để xem miễn phí những vở kịch Shakespeare, và chơi nhạc ở nhà. Một người con gái lớn lên và trở thành một đạo diễn nhà hát nổi tiếng thế giới, một người con gái khác trở thành người chơi đàn hạc (harpist) chính của một trong những dàn nhạc đỉnh nhất Mexico, còn anh trai họ thì đồng sáng lập một trong những đài truyền hình 24h đầu tiên ở quốc gia này. 💪💪Tất nhiên, để tạo ra những gia đình xuất chúng như vậy thì bố mẹ phải hi sinh rất nhiều (to sacrifice a great deal), đặc biệt là người mẹ. Họ phải làm việc quần quật vừa để kiếm tiền cho con đi học các lớp để phát triển bản thân (enrichment classes) và vừa để chăm sóc gia đình. 🤪Sự thành công của những gia đình này đến từ cả 3 thứ: nuôi dạy (nurture), tự nhiên (nature) và may mắn (luck). Tóm lại, bố mẹ muốn con mình thành công cần cho con tiếp xúc với những cơ hội giúp làm ‘giàu’ bản thân (to expose children to enrichment opportunities), cho con tiếp xúc với xã hội (to socialise them) và đọc cho con nghe (to read to them). Bài này thật thú vị. Từ trải nghiệm cá nhân thì các bạn nghĩ sao, comment ở dưới nhé 😀.

Apologizing and admitting you’re wrong can be hard enough, but to your kids? Yes. Here’s why 😕 The other day I was walking through the kitchen. I was annoyed that I was still working later than planned, and I still navigating a stressful negotiation. “Dad, could you peel me this orange?” One of my children stood there holding it out in anticipation. I glanced over and snapped, “No, stop asking me for snacks all the time.” “Okay, sorry,” he said. Within seconds I was out the front door and it hit me like a punch in the gut. Turning around I went back in and found him. “Hey buddy, I’m really sorry. That had nothing to do with you. I know it was directed at you, but it shouldn’t have been,” I said down on my knee next to him. “It’s okay dad.” “No, it’s not, but I appreciate your forgiveness. I love you.” As grownups, it’s so easy to move through life selfishly believing that our happenings are the most important things going on. 🗞 Newsflash – they’re not. I could have easily just come back and given my son the orange. I could have made an excuse about being busy and stressed, but I’m not teaching my kids to be victims. When we’re in the wrong, the sooner we own it and make amends, the firmer the lesson will be. Owning our wrongs and seeking forgiveness from those we hurt may just be one of the most important lessons we can teach. We’re all human, and we’re going to have moments that are not our proudest. If a child knows that I’m willing to admit when I’m wrong, chances are, they’ll feel more comfortable telling me when they are, too. And yes, I peeled the orange. 🍊

【Learn From Home｜Set up “Calm-down Corner” for your child】 When kids display negative emotions or behaviour, responses like scolding or forcing them to stop may only make things worse. Instead, consider setting up a "calm-down corner" — a safe space where they can self-regulate and prevent parent-child conflicts: 1️⃣ Pick the right spot: Choose a quiet, visible corner (e.g., in their bedroom or living room) free from sibling distractions. Explain its purpose to your child beforehand, so they understand its intended use. 2️⃣ Guide gently: When your child's emotions run high, direct them to the calm-down corner for 2-3 minutes. Once they have settled down, talk things through calmly—avoid immediate lecturing. 3️⃣ Use it wisely: A calm-down corner is for self-regulation, not punishment. It is meant to be a supporting tool for helping children manage emotions, not feel isolated. While this may be a helpful tool, gentle communication and emotional guidance are key to building a strong parent-child bond. 💖 Source: Heep Hong Society "Happy Parenting: Joyful Parenting Program Booklet" Stay connected with us at 賽馬會友趣學中文 C-for-Chinese at JC for valuable resources and tips on supporting non-Chinese speaking children in learning Chinese.

While some people may find baby talk annoying, science proves it’s a game-changer for babies’ development! 🧠 Here’s why baby talk (fancy name: parentese) is so beneficial: ✅ It boosts language learning: Babies exposed to baby talk develop larger vocabularies faster! 📚🗣️ ✅ It improves speech recognition: Exaggerated tones & slower speech help babies distinguish words more easily.👂 ✅ It strengthens emotional bonding: Babies respond more positively to sing-song speech. The eye contact, exaggerated expressions, and back-and-forth nature of baby talk make little ones feel safe, loved, and socially connected! ❤️👶 ✅ It encourages social interaction: Baby talk teaches conversational skills like turn-taking.🗨️ 🚨 But gibberish doesn’t help! ❌ Instead of saying random, made-up words like “goo-goo ga-ga,” use real words with an exaggerated, sing-song tone like, “Ooooh, look at the biiig dog! Woof woof! 🐶” What “conversations” do you have with your babies? 💕 #parenting #baby #babies #toddlers #pregnant #pregnancy #pediatrics #pediatrician #babytalk #languagedevelopment #childdevelopment

This blast from the past came in as a reminder of the power of connection in parenting. No fancy toys. No Pinteresty crafts. No "enriching activities" that require a PhD in toddler management. Just two people, a piece of paper, and some doodles (that may or may not resemble modern art). We often feel pressured to “do more” for our kids—buy the best toys, plan elaborate learning activities, or teach them three languages before preschool. But honestly? Our kids don’t care. They just want us. Fully present, fully engaged, maybe a little goofy. This masterpiece? It wasn’t about perfect lines or coloring inside them. It was about giggles, stolen glances, and the unspoken magic of "Look, Mama is here with me." So here’s your reminder: Parenting is less about doing and more about being. You don’t read with your one-year-old because you want them to become an orator. You don’t do random “artivities” because you expect them to be the next big thing in art. And yes, you’ll hear people say: "But they won’t even remember all this!" Maybe not. But here’s what they will remember—the feeling of connection. Every silly activity, every messy craft, every off-key song or kitchen jam session isn’t about the activity itself. It’s about creating an environment of joy, safety, and love. It’s about bonding in ways that feel natural to your family—whether that’s music, dance, books, or even banging on pots and pans like a rock band. They might not remember the activity, but they will absorb the presence. So go ahead—be silly with your child (or any child you meet along the way). If you want to, but don’t know how—or just feel like you don’t have enough hands to make it happen—DM me! Happy to help. 😊 In Frame: Us. This picture is special because: a) I am actually in it instead of behind the scenes. b) Both of us are in clean clothes. (A true parenting win!) #MindfulParenting #PresenceOverPerfection #ParentingWithHumor #ConnectionOverActivities

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🎮 อันตรายของ Unsupervised Screen Time กับประสบการณ์ครั้งแรกของลูกชายในการเล่นวีดีโอเกม 🎮 ช่วงปีใหม่ที่ผ่านมา บ้านเรามีโอกาสได้ลองให้ตานู๋เร็น (ลูกชายวัย 3 ขวบ) เล่นวีดีโอเกมครั้งแรกในชีวิตครับ จริงๆ แล้วพ่อบ้านเองก็เป็นเด็กที่โตมากับการเล่นเกม และก็ตื่นเต้นที่จะมีลูกชายมานั่งเล่นเกมด้วยกัน แต่…ความสนุกของเกมก็มาพร้อมกับความรับผิดชอบที่ใหญ่ยิ่ง เพราะ “หน้าที่ของวีดีโอเกม” คือการทำให้ผู้เล่นใช้เวลาอยู่กับเกมให้นานที่สุด ดังนั้นการปล่อยให้เด็กเล่นเกมโดยไม่มีการดูแล (unsupervised) จึงอาจส่งผลเสียมากกว่าผลดี นี่คือ แนวทางและประสบการณ์จากบ้านเรา ครับ: ก่อนเล่นเกม 1️⃣ แจ้งล่วงหน้า เราแจ้งลูกก่อนเลยว่า “วันนี้จะได้เล่นเกมแล้วนะ” เพื่อให้เขาเตรียมตัวและรู้ว่านี่เป็นสิ่งพิเศษ 2️⃣ ตั้งกฎให้ชัดเจน เกมเป็นของพ่อ เพราะฉะนั้นกฎของพ่อก็ต้องเคารพ: • จำกัดเวลาเล่นวันละ 30-45 นาที (มี buffer ให้ต่อรอง 3-5 นาที) • พ่อเป็นคนเลือกเกม (เลือกเกมที่มีเรตติ้งเหมาะสมสำหรับเด็ก เช่น E หรือ For Kids) • ถ้าถึงเวลาแล้วไม่เลิกเล่น หรือมีการงอแง วันถัดไปจะไม่มีสิทธิ์เล่น ระหว่างเล่นเกม 💡 Supervise ทุกครั้ง ในฐานะผู้ใหญ่ การนั่งอยู่ด้วยระหว่างลูกเล่นเกมคือสิ่งสำคัญที่สุด • เราจะได้เห็นว่าเกมนั้นเหมาะสมหรือไม่ • มีโอกาสสอนลูกระหว่างเล่น เช่น การควบคุมอารมณ์ การคิดวิเคราะห์ หรือการทำตามกติกา แม้จะเห็นว่าเขาสนุก เราก็ไม่ปล่อยให้เล่นนานจนเกินไป เพราะเกมสามารถกระตุ้นสมองเด็กให้ตื่นตัว (overstimulate) จนทำให้เกิดปัญหาเรื่องสมาธิ (attention span) และอารมณ์ (emotional regulation) ในภายหลังได้ ช่วงเลิกเล่น ✨ นี่คือช่วงเวลาที่เราเห็นพัฒนาการของลูกจริงๆ • แจ้งล่วงหน้า 5-10 นาที ว่าใกล้หมดเวลาแล้ว • เมื่อถึงเวลา เราขอให้เขาวางคอนโทรลเลอร์และบอกลาวีดีโอเกม และสิ่งที่พ่อแม่ปลื้มที่สุดคือลูกยอม “บ๊ายบาย” เกมได้อย่างง่ายดายครับ คำแนะนำจากผู้เชี่ยวชาญ 1️⃣ วีดีโอเกมที่ดีควรเลือกให้เหมาะกับพัฒนาการของเด็ก เช่น เกมที่ช่วยฝึกทักษะการแก้ปัญหา (problem-solving) หรือการประสานมือ-ตา (hand-eye coordination) 2️⃣ จำกัดเวลาเล่นเกมไม่เกิน 1 ชั่วโมงต่อวันในเด็กเล็ก (ตามคำแนะนำของ American Academy of Pediatrics) 3️⃣ ต้องมีผู้ใหญ่ดูแลเสมอ (supervised play) เพื่อป้องกันผลกระทบทางลบ เช่น การพัฒนาสมาธิที่สั้นลง หรือพฤติกรรมก้าวร้าว Reference 1️⃣ American Academy of Pediatrics. (2016). Media and Young Minds. 2️⃣ WHO Guidelines on Physical Activity, Sedentary Behaviour and Sleep for Children Under 5 Years of Age. (2019). 3️⃣ Przybylski, A. K., & Weinstein, N. (2017). Video game time limits and child adjustment. Child Development. 4️⃣ Anderson, C. A., & Dill, K. E. (2000). Video games and aggressive thoughts, feelings, and behavior in the laboratory and in life. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology. การเล่นเกมไม่ใช่สิ่งเลวร้ายครับ แต่มันคือ “เครื่องมือ” ที่พ่อแม่ต้องดูแลและสอนลูกให้ใช้อย่างเหมาะสม เพื่อให้เกิดผลดีมากกว่าผลเสีย #พ่อบ้านแนะนำ #AnywhereWithKids #พาลูกเที่ยว #ParentingTips

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✨بتلعبي مع ابنك اذاي؟✨ فكرتي قبل كده اذاي الوقت الي بتقضيه مع ابنك في اللعب يكون فعلا في صالحه ؟ في حالة انك شاركتيه في اللعب ومسبتيوش يلعب لوحده اصلا😟 فكرتي اذاي ميبقاش مجرد وقت بيضيع عشان يكون ملهي وساكت من غير دوشه أو بهدله أو عياط وزن؟🤔 لما اتعاملنا مع الأمهات خلال السنين الي فاتت وسألناهم هما منتظرين ايه من فكرة الالعاب الي بيستخدمها أطفالهم كانو بيقولوا أنه يبقي ملهي وساكت وياه بقي لو ملهي في حاجه مفيده واهو يتعلم ويسكت في نفس الوقت🤭 فكرتنا عن اللعب مع الاطفال والهدف منه ابعد ما يكون عن حقيقته اصلا😎 احنا فاهمين الموضوع غلط ..احنا مش بنلعب مع أطفالنا عشان نلهيهم أو نسكتهم في إبعاد تانيه محتاجه تشوفيها وتكون هي الهدف الأساسي الي بتتعاملي بيه مع طفلك وقت اللعب تعالي اوضحلك اكتر👏 تعرفي أن ابنك عنده ٣ شخصيات؟ ايوه بجد زي ما بقولك كده😉 ابنك وهو بيلعب بيحتاج منك تطلعي من جواه ٣ شخصيات 💕اول حاجه شخصيه الطفل الي بيتحرك وبيخرج طاقته وقادر يتفاعل مع كل حاجه حواليه بحريه من غير قيود في الحركه أو اللعب وقادر يتسفيد ويتفاعل بكل حواسه و كل جسمه( بعد جسدي) 💕تاني شخصيه انه يفكر ويركز وينتبه ويحاول مره واتنين وثلاثه بدون مساعده منك ..هو جواه اصلا معلم داخلي مش محتاج مساعدتك فعلا مجرد أنه يفكر ويشغل دماغه وقت اللعب ده بيأكد عنده البعد التاني (البعد الذهني) 💕تالت شخصيه بتظهر في قدرته علي التعبير عن نفسه فعلا والتعبير عن مشاعره في كل مره بينجح فيها في أنه يعمل اللعبه صح او ميعرفش يعملها صح ويحس بمشاعر الحزن والفشل.. هو في كل الأحوال قادر يعبر عن نفسه وعن الي جواه بدون قيود او كبت(البعد الروحي) فانتي في كل مره بتلعبي فيها مع طفلك محتاجه تفكري في اللعب بطريقه تانيه مختلفه وتشوفي الابعاد دي كويس عشان لعبك معاه يحقق هدفه فعلا وزي ما قولتلك قبل كده هو مش محتاج مساعدتك عشان يتطور أو يتعلم🤗 هو محتاج تعيشي معاه ال ٣ إبعاد دول وتشوفيه في النهايه طفل وليه احتياجات وتديله مساحته في أنه يعيش طفولته بشكل آمن🫶

ابنك مش حاسس بالحريه😟 ماريا منتسوري قالت جمله مهمه جدا بخصوص الموضوع ده 💞 "تتطور شخصية الطفل وفقا للعقبات التي واجهها أو الحريه التي يتمتع بها لصالح نموه" بنشوف الاطفال من اول ما يبدأو يزحفو ووهما بيكبرو في كل مرحله بيكونو عاوزين يعبرو عن نفسهم بالحركه واللعب والاكتشاف لكل حاجه حواليهم👏 فمع كل حركه تبتدي الام تسحب من أيده كل حاجه هو بيمسكها أو بيجري عليها.. وبيكون جواها احساس بالخوف عليه 😉 ابنك جواه معلم داخلي بالفطره ولوحده بيتعلم كل حاجه بدون تدخل منك😍 مساعدته علي التطور هتحتاج منك انك تديله مساحة الحريه الي يقدر يكتشف بيها كل حاجه حواليه والي هتكتمل من خلالها عملية التعليم خصوصا في أول ٣ سنين من عمره ☺️ الحريه في الحركه وفي الشعور الي تديله الفرصه يكون قادر يعبر بيها عن نفسه ويكون شخص ذكي وواثق بنفسه وحاسس بالاستقلال🤗 وخليكي عارفه أن كل لما بتقفليها علي طفلك فانتي كده بتقتلي جواه رغبته في أنه يعبر عن نفسه فعلا وأنه يكون شخص مبدع 😉 اعرفي أن دورك مع اطفالك مش مجهود وان دورك حب واحتواء لاطفالك ومساحة حريه يكونو فيها نفسهم😍