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Every leader has shadows – those dark places that hide and harbor the least desirable parts of who we are. And when those behaviors emerge, the outcome is seldom good for either the recipient or the leader. Additionally, the more a leader becomes successful, the larger the shadows can grow because there is more at stake and more to lose. Here are 6 scary behaviors that can often be found lurking in the shadows of any leader. 1. Impressing Others Have you ever been in a conversation and mentioned knowing someone well-known? Or have you ever brought up your credentials, experiences, or accomplishments, and even added a little embellishment? The desire to impress and to be accepted can be powerful in the life of a leader. When such motivation is deeply embedded in the heart of a leader, it can be seen in behaviors such as name-dropping, excessive exaggeration, and making promises that are not likely to be fulfilled. When you personally do these things or see them done by others, be aware that something may be lurking in the shadows. 2. Hyper-Control Ask any ten people if they would prefer to be in control or not, and eight will say “yes” and the other two are lying. It is normal for us to want some control over our lives and choices, but hyper-control takes this to a very different level and is often driven by extreme fear or pride. Fear of being embarrassed or feeling threatened, or pride because you believe you know better than most others and want them to know it. At its worst, hyper-control can make us look pathetic and hold others back from being able to grow their leadership and independence. 3. Manipulation Have you ever watched a chiropractor manipulate someone’s back or neck? They carefully place their hands in just the right place and move that spine or neck in just the right fashion to alleviate pain. However, the manipulation carried out by a leader is not designed to relieve the pain but rather to protect him or herself from discomfort, even if it means causing pain to others. Link in bio for #4-#6!